I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve left a trail of broken New Year’s Resolutions over the past few Januaries. But at the same time, there have also been a few that actually stuck around.
A regular fitness routine.
A real emergency fund.
A raise at work.
So what makes for the perfect resolution that you can actually stick to?
I’ve written before about how we should make sure our goals are reasonable, but the problem isn’t just having goals. Most of our resolutions are either something we think we should want but don’t or just too vague to make a plan to stick to.
Annoying but true
Alright, it’s time for those New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you’re looking at big lists from blogs that are telling you to go for that big promotion at work or magazines that have the top 20 ways to lose weight.
These aren’t terrible goals to have by any means, but do they reflect the type of person you want to be and the kind of life you want to live for the next 365 days?
Maybe, maybe not.
What were your resolutions last year?
If you wanted to lose weight, did you try diets that made you miss out on birthdays and parties?
If you wanted to get that promotion at work, did you work long hours and rarely see your family?
If you wanted to start a new relationship, did you go out on dates with people who didn’t spark?
It’s time to think if those trade-offs were worth it. Because if you aren’t willing to happily trade your time or energy for your new goals, they aren’t worth having.
Let’s reframe those New Years resolutions in terms of goals that you ARE willing to sacrifice for. Continue reading